What is the root of my shyness?
Ok. I'm a 15 year old guy who's very shy and introverted with strangers and friends, but I'm not with my family and close friends, or when I talk over the internet, on the phone, or when I text. I went to a Christian private school most of my childhood (kindergarten to 5th grade), I was home schooled for two years, and now I've been in public school for two years. I'm just so shy and reserved! Back in elementary school, I had no problems whatsoever talking (even making a fool of myself numerous times), but now it's like I have a fear of making a fool of myself if I talk or I just have nothing to say. What is the root of this and why am I doing this? This summer I hope to change my ways and become more outgoing, so if you have any tips for me too, that would be great.
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I have felt the same way when I was younger. It changed when I was 16 and I went out to get a job. Once I stepped outside my comfort zone I began to open up. So that's my suggestion to you. I know its scary but join a club or a sport at school. Step outside your comfort zone and you might even surprise yourself. You'll start to see a little bit of your old self shine through again. Good luck!!
Everyone is shy when it comes to talking to people for the first time and you cannot judge that. The fact that you find it easier to talk over msn or txt is because you don't have to put in emotions and I am thinking that's what you find hard.
Writing over MSN isn't as it is in real life because you don't get to express your feelings necessarily whereas in real life your emotions have to coordinate with what you are trying to say.
You are not shy at your house and with your family because you feel comfortable with them and you trust them. Whereas strangers and friends, you aren't used to them and they haven't seen you at your best and at your worst and you just don't have that attachment you have with your family.
The part you should be worried about is when you have a constant fear of not making a fool out of yourself because that could become a phobia or an actual social problem or fear. Don't be afraid to make mistakes and tell yourself you don't have to change for the world and people who will like you will like you for who you are and it's OK to be shy.
Catholic school has taught you morals and values and it was more strict and it probably contributed to you being shy, as well as the fact that you were home schooled which blocked your connection to a group of people.
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