What can a woman, any woman say?
What can a woman, any woman say that will make a man, any man, understand she doesn't want to have sex with him. I am having a problem when I go to VA Hospitals, any VA Hospital and creepy old men come up to me and want to have sex. It seems no matter how many times and how many ways I tell them I don't want to have sex with them, and to get away from me, they just don't get the message. What can I say to a man that would creep him out and get him to leave me alone? I just don't know how to get them to just get away from me and leave me alone. Thanks in advance for answering.
Update:No, I go to the Veterans Hospitals for care. I just moved and a creepy old man hit up on me and nothing I said could get rid of him, and I was so freaked out because I have been raped before when I was in the military and threatened to be raped over and over again when I was at war. I realized that this also happened to me when I was in Dallas at the VA there, but I got scared when the man followed me out of the hospital, so I went back into the hospital through the emergency room. I just want men to leave me alone, but I don' t know what to say that will get through to them.
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You must be gifted in the looks department. How about "Go to your room and wait for me. If I'm not there in 10 minutes, start without me" heh... Once I was flirting with a restaurant employee who was making me a sandwich, and she asked me, "do you want me to cut it in half?"
Yep, insulting their manhood is really cruel; just telling you what's been done to me.
Once I told a female therapist, "there's only one thing I want in a woman". ha! She said "there are blow-up dolls for that." heh...
In Utah if they touch your br. or your bum they can go to jail for 6 months for sexual battery.
While I am sympathetic with your plight I think also you need to learn how to confront your demon and even to defeat it. Rape is a bad thing and so is sexual harassment, but they are things that probably won't be going away any time soon. I assume you have had some sort of counseling or other treatment to deal with the past rape. If that is ongoing ask your specialist about how to handle this.
You have some options if a man is threatening or scaring you. One is to contact security. Another would be to speak to someone in the hospital administration and ask if necessary that you be given a way to get assistance in your problem.
I assume you are attractive since you are being hit on. I would suggest possibly dressing down a little when you go to the hospital. Cargo pants, maybe a boonie hat, maybe a biker T-shirt. Use your imagination.
Now, I don't know what you consider to be a creepy old man. I happen to be 70--I'll be 71 in April. I can assure you there are many men my age and older who are still very attracted to women and who are quite up to performing sexually. Personally I would never do anything like these men have done to you and I don't approve at all of it. Just try not to get quite so freaked out about it. Maybe even laugh.
Tell him your waiting for your husband, maybe. There's lots of ways to get a man to back off.
Point is, many of the patients in a VA hospital have a variety of problems, some of which are psychological or even psycho-social. I am in no way trying to excuse their behavior--just warning you that you may have to find ways to cope with it.
But if all else fails, make sure someone in the hospital is made aware of your problem. Good luck and thank you for your service.
Say:
I'm in the process of sex reassignment. Can you wait a few weeks until the surgery is done?
Honestly, there isn't any one thing you can say. Most of them probably won't care what you have to say. They will say what they want regardless.
Just ignore them and move on. The only thing I can suggest, is if they touch you or grab you, then you report it.
I once kicked a guy square between the legs because he grabbed my left breast. He was drunk and this was at a party. He went down like a sack of potatoes. I walked away really fast, grabbed my friend by the arm and we left in a hurry, lol. Never did see that creep again.
Perverted old men are the worse, too. Like, you want to slap some of them, but they're just so feeble that I couldn't do it unless they actually tried to touch me.
Complain to your supervisor and maybe they can switch you from that particular person or area with a male. That's about all I can think of. One of my best friends is a CNA and she works at a retirement home. Had to deal with it all the time. She complained about it and they moved her to another area. So far, she hasn't had to deal with anyone doing that to her again.
Why are you going to hospitals regularly, I presume you're a nurse or work at a hospital YES? If your a nurse and these dirty old donkeys make remarks like that to you, why not just say '' when you treatment is finished here you will be going to jail if you make one more remark like that''. Don't say some of the stupid things others have answered, like saying your on a period or you have the clap, this does not deter them from their own filthy minds, but a serious threat of the police being called just might do.
Good Luck
Billie UK
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now go play in the middle of the highway and leave trolling to the professionals
You can easily just reply i'm in my period which will gross out any man near you in the moment or you can create a big lie and tell him your pregnant!
"I have the Clap, you ******" try that.
BS!
I have herpes.