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I am very sorry for your loss. I lost my first child at 20 weeks and 5 days. Also a boy, I named him Yardley Armond on February 12, 2008. The past four months has seemed like an eternity.

I had a infection that was undetected, causing my sack to leak. I had went for an ob/gyn visit February 09 all the tests were fine. It was just one of those things. At first I blamed myself, but with the help of my doctor, family and close friends I began to get past it.

Two months later I knew that I wanted to try again. I have read a lot of literature about stillbirths. Reading and online forums have really helped me understand that it wasn't my fault and that I was not alone. Most importantly, the chances of having a second stillbirth are slim to none.

I am presently ttc. There are some still days that I cry in grief for my son while looking at tv or reading on one of the forums. Everyday I pray that God blesses me with the opportunity to be a good mother. Like you, I know that my son cannot be replaced and I will never forget that pain and disappointment. Life goes on. Jonas will always live in your hearts.

I also fear the worst, but I am determined not to let that fear keep me from the one thing I desire most....being a mother. I will pray for your strength as well.....

Wishing you lots of baby dust.

The chances of something like that happening again are very rare. I feel your pain though. I miscarried twins and 18 weeks and it was a horrifying experience. I now have a wonderful little girl who is 4 months old. I never thought I could love another person as much as I do her... One of my best friends had a stillborn as well, and went onto having 2 beautiful children afterwards. I truely believe that God has a plan for all of us, and if he wants you to be a mommy, he will bless you with a child. I know these experiences are horrible, but I think you should try again and be happy to be pregnant again. Although you will never forget Jonas, forgive yourself and become a mommy like you want!!! Good Luck!!!

i am so unbelievably sorry for your loss.

i lost a baby, miscarriage at 9 weeks. so in a way i can understand how badly you want another baby. but my mistake was i couldnt deal with my loss, and i wanted to replace the baby that was taken away from me. i was in denial and convinced myself getting pregnant again as soon as possible was the answer to all my problems.

needless to say, it was not the answer. my partner at the time promised we'd try again, then when the time came, he denied he'd ever said that. i was having family problems. and it wasnt till i went to the dr and they prescribed me anti depressants that i realised how low i was and the miscarriage was just the tip of the iceberg.

i changed my whole life. moved. got with a new partner who is my absolute soulmate and we have been blessed with a baby girl, sophie, who is now 10mos old.

my pregnancy was hard. i had constant infections, intermittent bleeding and this was paired with the terrifying thought of 'im going to lose this baby too'. but i got there. and so will you.

please grieve for what you have lost, and dont try to replace him. make sure you and your husband have dealt properly with your loss and find closure. and although that little angel will be in your thoughts everyday, you will get to a point where you can cope and go into a new pregnancy with confidence and hope.

good luck xxx

i had a miscarrige at 20 weeks 14th february it was a little girl and the cord was wrapped around her anyway ive just found out im prgnant again only 6 weeks and im worried about it cause of what happened but im trying to stay positive and hope things go better this time which is expected its up to you when you feel ready to have another one but you probably will worry for a while if you do get pregnant again ask your midwife for extra checkups like i did just to reassure you through out your pregnancy they are quite understanding and usually accomodate if you want it good luck

Don't lose hope! My mother had a son, Jonathon Joseph who was a still born. It took her 5 yrs to get pregnant with my sister, 4 yrs with my brother and then after the still born 6 weeks to get pregnant with me. He had a hole in his heart and I came out fine. Good luck and baby dust I hope it all works out for you!

The odds of that happening again are probably slim to none. You need to be emotionally ready, before you TTC again. You don't want ot feel like you are trying to replace your little boy.