This is simply me unable to choose between staying away from a boy I usually meet Saturdays or going to see him.He knows I adore him and he says he has feelings too, but he can be dismissive at times because he has trouble with the idea of committing (he isn't seeing anyone else even though he has plenty of options - he's choosing "just me", but yet he can't bring himself to call us an "us"/ask me out shiz). I don't know if I can be bothered with the confusion, yet at the same time I know he makes me happy (though also frustrated).. It's all complex in my mind so I'm leaving the decision up to the less biased..YOU. :LUpdate:He has been cheated on, and was dumped because she was bored of the 'commitment' and responsibilities, wanting a friends with benefits deal.. Created by Angelica. family-relationships-import - singles-dating-import

Should I stay or go? Relatively short simply question.?

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Should I stay or go? Relatively short simply question.?

This is simply me unable to choose between staying away from a boy I usually meet Saturdays or going to see him.

He knows I adore him and he says he has feelings too, but he can be dismissive at times because he has trouble with the idea of committing (he isn't seeing anyone else even though he has plenty of options - he's choosing "just me", but yet he can't bring himself to call us an "us"/ask me out shiz). I don't know if I can be bothered with the confusion, yet at the same time I know he makes me happy (though also frustrated).. It's all complex in my mind so I'm leaving the decision up to the less biased..YOU. :L

Update:

He has been cheated on, and was dumped because she was bored of the 'commitment' and responsibilities, wanting a friends with benefits deal.

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sonrisa

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Does he have a valid reason for not wanting to commit? For example, has he been really hurt or cheated on by a girl in the past? If not, then in my opinion, there is no reason for him to not be in a relationship with you. If guys do not want commit without a good reason, it's usually because they still feel like they have other girls to meet, date, etc. and therefore do not want to tie down with just one girl.

You say he makes you happy, but you are obviously not completely happy because you're frustrated that he won't call you "us". So I think you should just be honest with him (if you haven't already) and explain that you'd like to be exclusive, and if he still doesn't want to, then I suggest you move on to a different guy who will make you completely happy and WILL want to commit only to you. Trust me, they do exist. Good luck!