Parents can you answer this question about molestation?
Well I was sexually abused for ten years and I want to know how my parents didn't notice. Here are some things that happened while they were watching me. My brothe, cousin and I were in the car and my cousin starts making out with me (I was only four) when we get home my brother runs and tell my mom that my cousin (13) was kissing me the whole way home. She just yelled at me not to kiss him. On a cartrip we brought him on there were no seats left so he laid on the ground and he had me give him blow jobs under a blanket. On Christmas he and I would disapear for a couple hours and walk out of the bathroom together. I was only 4 or 4 and he was 13/14. It's not all that happened but this is stuff that happened on their watch. How would you not notice? Would you become saspicious if I was your kid? Does that even sound like normal behavior for a 4 years old?
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There is no real good answer, it sounds like you are looking for some one to blame. The bottom line is its the molesters fault and no one else.
If you are a parent and you look back, you might see some signs. It's sometimes hard to spot signs in a child at the time and say for sure its not just them being different or something about there personality. So many kids are different with different personalities even if you have more then one you might think oh.. that's just how he is.
When my kids were young the think about putting them in the back seat was touching each other. Oh it sounds bad if you think of it bad but my son put touch my daughters arm and she would say..mom he is touching me, then she would touch him on the arm and he would say.. mom she is touching me. I would end up going crazy and saying loud stop it and dont touch each other, no touching.
The way you said that you told your mom he was kissing you sounded kinda like that, so a parent could have seen it as innocent kids doing things to get on each others nerves.
Parents have to worry about so many things and have so much going on while they are raising kids, sometimes they don't always pay attention as much as they should.
Don't blame your parents and dont blame yourself.
Most parents don't expect it from younger family members. Children that young don't usually know anything about those sort of acts, so they don't assume the worst when they should at the least be concerned.
Parents would probably never think that a family member woudl do something like that. Your cousin sounds hilarious.