My mom is really strict?
My mom is really strict on me even though I try really hard in school, I get straight A's, I don't have bad friends, I don't have piercings, I don't do drugs, I don't smoke, and I don't have a boyfriend. I've been trying to get prepared for highschool and do sports, but my mom wont let me hang out with friends at all. I occasionally ask and she sometimes lets me but she makes me feel like crap giving me dirty looks and says I cant go anymore. She didn't let me get an email till 7th grade, she didn't let me text until 8th grade(She even checks how much I text and asks to read them!). Once I asked her if could call to study and she said that I wasn't allowed to have friends. I get that my mom worries about me since I'm a girl but I have no control in my life. She even wants to cut my hair off and I'm starting to get mad. She always gets mad at me cause I don't do what she says. I barely hang out with friends and she says I'm too "outgoing" I'm always stuck in my house. I have a social life online but not in the real world. I don't want to be socially awkward, I have a lot of acne scars which makes it worse cause I'm even more insecure, and my mom wont let me do anything.
I want some freedom.
What should I do?
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The big problem is you're just "hanging out with friends". Your mom is scared because either she doesn't know who those "friends" are or what they'll get you into - or else she does know and doesn't approve. So here's what you do:
Ask your mom about her own life as a teenager - and not just once or twice: ask about it often. The more you get her to talk about herself and her own experiences, the more you can find out about the kinds of 'extracurricular activities' she feels positive about. Then you can go find a club at school or in church or somewhere in your community that's doing one of those things your mom might like. If it's something she enjoyed and thought highly of, it'll be more difficult for her to turn you away from it. Once you're in with a group your mom respects and trusts, you'll have a social circle you can build friendships in.
unless your mum is abusing you, there is not a lot you can do. stick it out until you can leave home and then you can do what you like.
do you have a dad who can maybe help you out here? perhaps you could ask him to talk to your mum about being allowed to go out with friends occasionally. maybe start with a special occasion where you will be picked up and dropped off at alloted times and work it up from there.
dont agree to getting your hair cut, i would have thought there was action you could take against your mum if you could prove she cut it off without your consent
You could talk to an adult at your school about this, like a counselor or something. They could talk to your mom and tell her about the dangers of being over protective. Or, you could just rebel a little and let yourself have some adventure. Skip a class and see what happens (:
Best advice...wait till your 18, then you can do what you want.
about the friends thing, I don't know what to tell you because im homeschooled:(
Also, don't take the rude comments:)