My girlfriend talks to a guy that hit on her in the past?
Okay so my girlfriend and I are both 21,we are together for almost 3 months and she goes to college in the city where I live,because I work here.At weekends she goes home by train,and in the past(before she met me)a guy hit agressively on her.After out first fight she said that he asked her on facebook if she is single and replied yes(she confessed that this happened some time ago).When he saw us at the train station he started acting jealous at her(she told me all of this)she said that I am her boyfriend and then he started to be rude towards her.She threatened to block him on facebook,so he stopped and ever since she said he wants to be only"friends".Every time she leaves he is on the train with her,I asked if she is meeting him on purpose and she said no,but she confirmed that he asked when she leaves and she awnswered.I told her that this makes me unconfortable(I never yelled at her,nor been agressive in any way)but she keeps telling this guy when she leaves,and she"thinks"he comes with her by accident.
We get along great,I met her family and the comunication is great,but this keeps popping up,she talks with him non-stop on facebook when she is home and it makes me want to end it sometimes.
What should I do?
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Sit down and talk to her about it. Likely she'll think it's cute that you care that much about her. I still don't know why she would talk to him though o.O that's wrong, and let her know that you don't want her talking to him, cause that's just really weird in my opinion. But seriously before you end things, really talk to her about it.
As you can see she enjoys talking to him more then you, she tell him when she gets off so she can see him and who knows how are they go. What i'm saying is, she could be cheating on you and the fact that she still talks to the guy means she wants his attention. I would recommend you ask her to stop talking to him. Don't come out too aggressive or she will get mad that you are trying to control her. Just ask her nicely and depending on what she says it will tell you if she likes the guy or not.
Stop being a chick. Chicks are the ones that play stuff in their mind and worry and etc. Give her an ultimatum. Make her find a way to avoid that guy or find a way for YOU to stop that dude from doing anything stupid. Don't fluff stuff around.
When they are on the train you don't know what they do. Truthfully, if they talk like crazy on FB they probably sit together on the train. I mean, wouldn't that make sense?
I think it's natural for us to have friends of the opposite sex even when we were married or dating but it all depends on what this chatter on FB is about.
I know this is hard when someone tries to hone in on your girlfriend. Love will find a way. Be extra sweet with him.