I'm not a morning person, he is and we've bumped heads on this.?
My husband and I have been married for 22yrs. He's always known I'm not a moring person until I've had my coffee an and hour later I'm human. This moring he started to tickle me knowing how I am, then I pooked him in the sides he said it only agravited him not tickle him. Then I when in to the kitchen to make my coffee, he came in and started to tickle me again and I elbowed him. He got up set with me and now it saying he'll not mess with me any more in the moring. I've explained to him if he aproched me in a loving way I would not have acted that way. Last weekend he was off work and as he said he harassed me, in my eyes he gave me more of a hard time and didn't spend much time with me or give me much attiantion. now he's been walking around like theres a wall between us. Was I wrong with beening honest with him about how I felt. I also told him I've always have been this way and he said he knows it. Why do I feel bad at the end of the day.
Update:I've apaloigeed to him two times now and he said he's not ready to talk to me about it yet. That was 1 1/2 days ago. It seems to me I'm the peace maker in out marriage. I've yet to hear him say anything about his part in this.
Update 3:I've apoloized to him two times now and he said he's not ready to talk to me about it yet. That was 1 1/2 days ago. It seems to me I'm the peace maker in out marriage. I've yet to hear him say anything about his part in this.
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Married to each other 22 years and he doesn't know what your likes and dislikes are? I bet there's other areas you're not happy with in your marriage.. And don't let him make you feel bad be the one not to give in for a change..
If you have not been able to work this problem out in 22 years then you never will. You feel bad because you love and care for your husband and don't want to hurt him. And by the end of the day you have been thinking about what happened so much that it bothers you. You know what you need to do and that is to talk to him at a time during the day when you both are feeling good, and discuss everything about the "morning situation" and I bet you that things will be fine for the next 22 years.....(smile)
He know I do noy know why he is acting like this he just eants you attention and is being a butt head so don't worry about it. Make it up to him if you feel bad you should have not elbowed him jyust tell him you are not in the mood that is all. But I know what is feels like to be elbowed it feels like you are pushing him away and that is the hard part about everything is that you are pushing him away when he wants to show you love. And men show there love when the want to. So try somehting romantic make a nice dinner and watch a romantic movie and love him like you have never done it before. And you and him will forget.
After 22yrs he hasnt figured that part of you out? My wife and I have the same deal except in reverse. She knows and leaves me alone. If we are planning something I get up earlier to get that cup of coffee first. Dont feel guilty he needs to deal with it. Remind him you just are not a morning person.
Looks like you two need to sit down and have some serious discussion on this topic. I'm sure you guy's can work it out.
You did fine in explaining it. He needs to respect you.
Be patient, you've communicated well. He does need to lay off you in the mornings and not crowd you. Say sorry for being short with him, but reiterate that you feel so lousy in the mornings that you don't liek being jabbed or tickled.......................
i think you are wrong because you have to please him, hes your husband even though you are not a "morning" person, which personally I think its just a stupid excuse, specially if you say that you are not human before an hour of having coffee, if you want to loose him, then go ahead and continue to keep him away from you like this
your husband is obviously suffering from lack of attention on your part. you must not be showing him the attention he is looking for, otherwise he wouldn't have messed with you first thing in the morning.
I think its cute that he still likes to tease you after 22 years.
Sometimes you are going to have to compromise my sister....
COMPROMISE. Honesty is fine..being inflexible is selfish.