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I would kick my daughters azz if she pulled that shite with me. She sounds like shes hanging out with the wild crowd, and you might want to reign her in

i understand your need as a parent to want to keep your daughter as safe as possible. what parent wouldn't want their children to be safe. However your daughter is 15 or 16 years old and has a right to privacy. In taking privacy away from teenagers in my own experience only encourages them to do things that you cannot find out about. It is not necessary to read your daughters texts although she may not be doing the things she says she is this could be because she is afraid of your reaction although i am guessing you would rather no where she is and not like it rather than think she is somewhere she is not. I would stop reading her texts and give her a bit more freedom and also give her some boundaries such as be back by a certain time or phone at a certain time to let you know what she is doing and where she is. she will be far more responsive to this. Tell her that you want her to be safe and explain dangers that she may not even be aware of. You could tell her that you will not read her texts as long as she is honest with you and she follows your rules. You will find that the extra freedom and privacy will make her more responsive to your rules and i'm sure you will both learn to trust each other. Remember no matter what happens you are still the most important person in her life !

Well first of all, why does she feel the need to lie to you about her whereabouts? If I were you, I would ask her to just tell you the truth. If she was going to another city and spending the night there, that isn’t very safe, but as a parent, you should think of ways to compromise. You could have said she could go to the party in the other town, only if she went with someone you trust and she couldn’t sleep over. That way you would both be happy. Also, reading her texts is kind of wrong, what if you find out her friends private business? It is NOT your business about what her friends are doing. I realize you are a concerned parent, but you should be pro active and try to get her to make safer decisions. Ask her to text you every hour when she is at these parties so you know she’s ok. Explain to her why you’re worried but DON’T get preachy. Good luck!

If my mom ever read my texts, I would be extremely embarrassed and disappointed. On the other hand, because your daughter has been in actual danger, I feel that you have good reason. You aren't doing it out of noseyness, but out of concern for your daughters safety. Because she is doing things that has lost your trust, you have good reason to do this. You may feel guilty and your daughter probably wouldn't understand, but once she becomes a mom, she will see that you were only trying to protect her. She needs discipline, and I think you are realizing that. You are a good mother for doing this. It's better to do what you're doing instead of being one of those mothers that has no concern for their children. Take confidence in knowing that you are a truly concerned and caring mother.

I hope that you and your daughter's situation works out.

If you do not totally trust your daughter, you have every reason to read her texts. As a 31 year old male, I can tell you how easy it is to get with younger girls - they look up to you, and act like you're so cool. That's cause to them, you are cool. Listen, I don't take advantage of younger girls, and I think hanging around high school aged kids (or even college aged kids) is weird. But you really need to keep track of her at this age - she is trying to prove to herself what an adult (sexual being) she is, and her friends are probably pressuring her to do things she's not ready for.

Encourage her to date, though. Dating guys her age will help her learn about guys in general, so she does not fall for anything later.

Think about this: What happens when you COULD have done something about her actions, but you didn't because you "respected her privacy" regarding her texts? Something very awful could happen, and you'd have to live with it. READ THE TEXTS. Get involved in her life. Before it's too late.

Oh, and have a conversation (or many) with her about sex, boys, why they want sex (hormones) what they are willing to do for sex (anything), and why she has to be selective about who she sleeps with (reputation) and how boys don't respect single moms as much so she's much better off with no kids on the dating scene. Talk to her about her sexual goals - how many guys she wants to sleep with, and why. Talk to her about dating, and what she thinks is important in a guy. Too many parents try to do everything by example, forgetting that their example is only so-so, and their example starts to wear away when the kids leaves home. (OK, enough preaching.)

I am a teen so I was about to protest this question over privacy issues; however, I can tell that you aren't looking at the tests to be nosy. Since it is a safety issue I would definitely keep an eye on the texts. If I was your daughter I would definitely be happy later on that you protected me and kept me safe.

My parents told me that I have their complete trust UNTIL I break it. In the case with your daughter she over stepped and now that trust is gone. I think that you have every reason to read her text messages because she is YOUR daughter. You love her and care for her and to have her running wild all over the place is dangerous. Explain to her you aren't doing this to be nosy but because you do love her and you don't want to see her in trouble. Don't be afraid to lay down the law. She has to learn she can't get away with acting out like she has been.

I'd say only read them in certain circumstances where you feel very suspicious of her actions. You are of course the parent and trying to enforce her safety as your daughter. If anything you are only trying to keep her life safe. However don't make it a habit to find every detail about her personal life because that's going a little overboard.

Normally i would think it is wrong to read your daughters texts, but in this case i guess it is probably the best thing for you to do. your daughter puts herself in dangerous situations so you as a parent need to be there to protect her from them.

however you need to make sure it is only for safety reasons and doesn't become intrusive, try not to read anything you don't absolutely need to and don't pry into situations you shouldn't.

i would also say it would be better if you told your daughter you could read her texts, but teenage girls are smart, and it might be better for her to not know, or she could find a way to wriggle around it. i suppose that is your choice. Good luck with your daughter, us girls get less rebellious as we get older, it'll all be fine!

I think that you are invading her privacy but you are her parent and you are concern about your child's safety and i understand that

so if i were you i would just sit down with her and ask her is there anything she was lying to you about and that you trust her and there will be no punishment

If she is telling you the truth.

But if she is lying you could probably confront her

yeah sure something like that should scare you if you are half decent parent, although i couldn't help but notice how you omitted anything that your daughter must have done so im just going to assume the worst lol. By older men im assuming 20->30 range so that's really creepy.