I have Mr. Magoo-ish relative who is staying with us and makes a mess all the time. How do you deal with him?
He makes coffee and drops the grounds on the counter. He eats pizza and drops the toppings on the floor. He pops open beer bottles then drops the damn caps. When he eats, he can't even see the napkins, then leaves the mess.
He doesn't even say "Sorry, I'm blind", use his glasses, or use a goof-proof way of doing things. He is my mom's nephew, yet as almost old as my parents. He was finally caught cheating (psuedo business trips, affair with sister in law) and his daughter convinced their mother to get a divorce. I have to tell him to use a can opener, to point out every mess he makes. I have no respect for him whatsoever and now I gotta be condescending towards him and be the ***. He has been on our couch for a damn year. I don't change the litter on purpose (its 5 feet away from couch). On one hand he deserves it for abandoning his kids for this mistress, but now i'm getting tired of it.
Update:My parents have given him this "year" to prep himself so he can move to the "Old Country" to live with his mistress. It's more like the person he's stuck with...if he wouldn't hae gotten caught. He would have moved on to another. He was juggling 3 women over there.
After a few months of him staying here, I started to feel sorry. Until he asked me if I knew anything about spyware and if its possible for his wife and daughter to hack his password on his computer. The reason he asked, was that his eldest/daughter, who basically ran the investigative front, hacked into his email password, fowarded all the whore correspondence to all her family, proving to them that it is he that is cheating and not her as he started accusing her of only after the gears of the divorce machine have started.
Anyways, back to the story, I caught him talking to other girls online. Wow, already cheating on the mistress...lol. Jes.. Chr...!
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he needs his very own man servant Charlie and i guess he thinks its you
He sounds ghastly! The only thing you can do, since it's your parents decision whether he goes or stays, is to explain to them as calmly as possible how you feel about his presence, and ask them when he's moving on.
After so long with you, it's well past time he thanked them for their hospitality and packed his bags. He obviously has no shame, and people like that do need a push to get them going. He's just taking advantage, and will continue as long as he doesn't get his marching orders. If your parents don't make it clear he must go, he could still be there a year from now.
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The man sound like a ungreatful PIG. being blind is no reason to disrespect others. If your parents dont do anything about him then there is little you can do. But i would nicely tell him what i thought of him, not that it would do any good but maybe make you feel better, unless your parents get on to you.
You should talk to your parents and tell them that enough is enough. Relatives who stay for a few days are okay but long term, like a year is out of question. Your parents need to kick him out so he can get a job and get his own place, obviously he is mooching off your parents and you are picking after him as a result.
Dont' bother trying to teach a old dog new tricks my friend.....best thing I can think of is MOVE OUT!....Leave the problems to your mom since she offered up her place and never put a time table as to when he should get into a new place.
tell him you think he is poor excuse for a human,get off his ***,suck it in and start being real man,instead of thinking with his *ick he should start using his lame *** brain..he knows it gets to you and he is a "deliberate "slob...i dont kno why your folks give u a hard time,but he should of moved out with his tart by now..ive seen this lots with my friends,my brother had done it to me and my kids,i wont help them anymore..i feel for you.tell your folks its Me or Him...(my brother and i have only spoken once in 6 months,but im not stressd now,it was worth it)lots of luck.
Direct him to the busiest highway and tell him go for it, women are out there waiting for him.
Well on one hand you can grin and bare it the other hand you can tell him what your thinking...The invisible hand suggests you make his life miserable
talk to your folsk and get him out period. that is what i would do hes just a loafer and you all dont' need him there any more.
We all get what we deserve