Hi. I'm in 8th grade at the moment. I basically only have 1 best friend, let's call her Tracy. (I'm changing their names in case of the off chance that they find/read this) I have been best friends with Tracy since 3rd grade. We have always done everything together. But now, she is slowly moving into another group. We used to make fun of them...how snotty and obnoxious they are. But now she hangs out with and talks to them everyday. Now, I'm not saying that she's not allowed to have other friends, but she ditches me for them all the time. I feel so lonely and I want to cry. The main one, lets call her Riley, is probably the worst one. I don't exactly hate her, but I do dislike the way she acts, I.e, very loud, rude, and overall a brat. They now say "I love you!" Daily to each other, and when I say it she never says it back. The other 3 girls are alright, but still act very similar to Riley, yet to a lesser extent. I am really introverted and quiet and I don't want to change myself to please them...but at the same time I don't want to lose my best friend, because then I'll have no one. I guess I should add that I was diagnosed with depression when I was 11, but Tracy or anyone else doesn't know that. I'm not saying to separate them, but what do I do? I just want to cry every time this happens at school. I feel so worthless. Please help. Thank you.
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l am sorry that this is happening to you, but it is perfectly natural
As you mature, it is normal to 'try' out different friends, and different
ways of being. lt is a way to grow and learn. lf you keep doing the
same things all the time, you don't learn anything new.
So you need to do the same thing - practising now will just make it
easier every time you need to do this in the future, eg. going to HS,
uni, new job, etc. This is a skill you need almost every day, and
learing to be gracious and welcoming goes a long way to making
your life successful.
You can make more friends, you can have fun at school, you can do this.
And make sure you are getting your depression treatments, and getting
lots of exercise - that is a natural antidepressant. Join a soccer team,
a bowling league, swim club, or take dance lessons, just do something
that you want to do, gets you moving, and having fun, and meeting new
people in a structured environment.