It seems like we can't go a few days without having a big argument with lots of yelling. This has been going on for months. I feel like no matter what I do or say I cannot avoid somehow starting a fight. Sometimes I think there's no point in trying because I can't do anything right as far as this relationship is concerned. I'm walking on eggshells, he even reads my facial expressions and asks me about them. And yeah, I do some things wrong. I don't keep up with my laundry and other household chores. I spend a lot of time reading and not being productive. Do I really deserve to be talked to in such a mean-spirited way? Why does he think the only way I will listen to his worries is if he gets really angry? I have told him many times that if he wants to illicit empathy from me, starting the conversation with a personal attack is not gonna work. He says I should try disarming him rather than try to defend myself. To me, that's like saying, yeah I started it, but YOU should react better! Is this a matter of respect? I just don't understand what I am supposed to do with all of this unnecessary drama. What do you do when your S/O is a drama queen? Breaking up is not an option I am willing to consider at this time.

I have tried the "it's us against the world" thing with him. It works for like a day and then he's back to me vs. him. The other day he got mad at me for helping him make breakfast. He COULD get mad at me for not doing housework, but he doesn't. He gets mad at me for totally random stuff I can't predict. Makes me feel like I'm going crazy or something. But that's cool guys, I'm sure if I do some laundry today he'll never get mad at me again. Fantastic advice. ugh.