My two-year relationship partner and I had a long discussion this afternoon over lunch. He said some things that really hurt me and said that he's not ready to get married right now. We had discussed marriage at length in the past but had never really set a timeline. I'm very okay with waiting to decide if we are "it" for each other. However he said he believes I'm ready to get married tomorrow and he's not ready to decide if I'm it for him yet. He also said if we broke up, but he doesn't want to break up, he thinks it would devastate me but it would not ruin his life if we did.

Part of me is glad we are relaxing our relationship instead of feeling pressured but another part of me is very hurt. I feel like I need to be relaxed and act as if it doesn't bother me to let him know that I'm still not sure if I want to marry him but I don't know how to relax and not feel bothered by things he doesn't say.

What should I do? Please help!