First night out in over a year and?
my mum has offered to babysit my daughters so my husband and i can go out for the night(first night out in over a year)and i was getting all excited planning what we can do together,anyway a few days later he comes and tells me that one of his friends called asking what he was doing on saturday night and asked if (our night out)could be everyones night out(us and 2 other couples),i didnt like the sound of that and said no straight away,i wanted to have a night out alone with my man. not 2 other couples,i wanted it to be our special night,when i said no he sounded somewhat
disappointed and said look i dont care you decide "its up to you" but in a smartass way,so now im not sure what to do,just agree with him and have a couples night or have our night out.i wouldnt mind if this kind of thing didnt occur all the time but it seems as though his friends want to get involved in everything we do the other day it was my daughters 3rd birthday and they just turned up to eat & left b4 the cake
Update:i dont feel the need to go out and party etc but he just loves the idea of involving his friends in everything we do.
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You have every right to want some time out. Your partner needs to learn that he doesn't need his hand held by his friends, especially when the deal was for some private time together. He also needs to understands that you try and avoid inviting yourself to an activity that is aimed at some exclusivity, as his friends have done. There is a time and place to enjoy group activities, this isn't one of them. Still, it's not as if you don't see them often enough anyway, or have the opportunity to see them in future. He really needs to dedicate more time to you - not you AND his mates! And to leave before the cake was served? What the...? Was there a medical emergency? Just no consideration! Don't blame if you don't want to spend ANY time with them at all.
Not a good sign, & I'm sorry! You have the right to stand your ground. Unfortuately, he will probably make your night miserable because he will be wanting to be somewhere else. Try a compromise! Dinner with the friends & then afterwards, he is yours & no exceptions to the rules!!! And ask him to make sure the friends know this before hand so that there isn't any awkwardness when dinner is over...
make special plans that are only for the two of you. Like a romantic dinne and then a romantic night at a hotel. He won't want them to come when he hears that
maybe he thinks it may be boring just the two of you or uncomfortable because it hasn't been just the two of you in so long maybe he is scared of what will be discussed and stuff... I think you need to stand strong on this one.. It is so important to have date nights when kids are involved
Tell him that you want a night out for just the two of you. Let his other friends find their own fun.
He sees you all the time. How often does he get to hang out with the guys?
Youch! Sorry but he needs to grow up and put you first.The friends sound lame!
Tell him what you told us. 'First time in over a year...' need I say more.
you need to get out more, find a good babysiter.
well it is time t spend time with your man