Am i gay? bi? straight? asexual?
Where do I start? I'm 16 and I'm in the 10th grade, life hasn't beecially when 50% of the time your questioning who you are. I'm unsure about my sexuality. When I was about 10-13 I remember dating a few girls. But then as I got to high school the questioning really started kickin in. After reading this you may have thought I went from liking girls to liking guys but not quite. It's almost like I like neither sex. When I think about having sex with girls I don't get aroused, its like I have no desire to be sexually active and its really starting to get to me. Especially when you have an annoying *** father who every other day asks you, "why don't you have a girlfriend?" or "when are you gonna start taking things with a girl to the next step?". I kinda understand the reason why my dad always tries to have these talks with me, because I am 16 and the average/normal 16 year old would have been had girlfriends, been kissed a few girls, and etc. When I see a pretty girl I'm like "wow she's pretty" but I never take things to the next level because of this confusion. Then there's the guys, its pretty much the same as the girl situation. I see a guy and I do say things like "he's good lookin". But here is where things get tricky, with me not being sexually active at all. There is one thing that turns me on, its my fetish "flatuophilia" its basically guys flatuence turns you on and the thought having a guy pass gas on you turns you on. Ikno, weird right? I'm always texting guys who has the same fetish as me, I always imagine guys in my school farting on me, looking at a guys butt and things like that. So that's how my life is right about now, and I'm unsure about how I should go about things. With being unsure with who I am, I don't want to go out and meet new people because, what's the point of trying to get to kno someone when you don't even kno who you are? I only have a select few friends, I'm mostly in the house, and I keep a lot of things/feelings to myself. I juss need someone to talk to, and advice would be helpful. It's getting to the point where my dad told me the other day to ask a girl on a date, and I'm not ready for that yet. I don't wanna tell my fqtger this because I'm just not ready to. I wanna take things slow, and its not normal for a 16year old to live that way. I should be going to parties, meeting up with friends, dating, and living life fast and fun why did I have to be the weird child, why me?
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Benjamin,
I see that you feel overly pressured to choose a sexuality. There is no need for that! A sexuality should be a natural aspect of your life, just like your personality. There are too many people in this world who focus their entire life and existence on their sexual preferences. Maybe you do need to be around people more often, not to decide what you are in terms of the bedroom, but to discover what all you can be as a person for yourself!
Do you think that maybe you are pressured into hurrying up to choose so you can live your life? You can live your life without having to know all that right now! I know about parents asking questions, maybe tell him that you don't want to rush into anything. The LAST thing you want is to make the wrong choice, when this should be a time to discover. The other last thing you want is to realize that you are hetero and then you get a girl pregnant at this age!
Sweetie, you're 16 years old. You have your ENTIRE life ahead of you! I wish you so much luck, Benjamin. Just know that it will all be alright, do not rush into anything. Take your time, there is nothing wrong with that. Honestly, I wasn't a normal 16 year old either when it came to sex and culture. When it comes to being around people, I would suggest hanging out in a group, find stuff that several of you could go out and do together, this way you can later evaluate and see who you were most drawn to and why.
Right now, I would slow down and focus on yourself and be who is natural to you, not to who the world wants you to be.
P.S. Many people have 'odd' fetishes, don't for one second thing that you're out of this world weird, because you're not alone!
Best of luck. [email protected]
It is perfectly normal to want to take things slow, I'm 16 too. You don't have to know exactly who you are right now, some people don't truly know until they're 50. Right now, focus on school and doing things that make you happy. If you don't feel like you want to date anyone, don't. If you are interested in trying dating, take a chance and ask someone out, you don't need to have a huge commitment yet, just try it for fun.
It's perfectly normal to be unsure about being sexually active, I'd recommend not having sex until you are older and feel comfortable with it.
As for your fetish, it isn't that unusual and it isn't bad as long as it doesn't stop you from having a normal life.
Go out, meet people, experience things, you'll be glad you did.
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Well, I understand a "man's man" father, but he's just looking out for you in the way he knows how. Why worry about labels like sexuality? You know what you like and you know there are others like you. There's a name for your fetish, so there must be others out there than just the people you text. Don't worry about upholding to stereotypes. Just do what you want to do, ok?